Wanda's Story

My story starts like this. I am the kind of person that never acts her own age. I was the oldest of four children and my mom was a single mother. So I grew up pretty quickly. I started living with my boyfriend after three years of relationship. I was 19 and he was 23. We always talked about having a family at a young age. So, we were working on it. Finally, two years later, I found out that I was pregnant. Not knowing what ectopic pregnancy was.

I didn't check myself with a doctor. One night at two and a half months, I started getting some sharp pain in my left side and I started spotting. My fiancé was scared and took me to the hospital. There I learned about ectopic pregnancy, after going through so much emotional stress. I didn't even know about some kinds of tools and tests they did to me that day. At the end they, finally told me that I had to be operated on. I was operated on, and the left fallopian tube was removed.

I asked the doctor what causes ectopic pregnancy and what to do to prevent it. The doctor just told me that it happens to woman sometimes. There is no way of preventing it. Since I had never heard of this, I didn't look further. I believed the doctor and I thought, this can't happen to me again.

I was wrong. Two years of wishing and praying to have a family of our own, I got pregnant again. I was scared still of what happened before, so I made an appointment. Still not believing that it could happen again, we were very happy and excited that finally we were going to have a baby. When I went for my appointment, the doctor was having problems finding the embryo. It wasn't in the uterus. Right there I just started tearing up. I knew that I was about to go through the same thing again.

I was right--the doctor told me that it was an ectopic pregnancy. She then also told me about the Methotrexate injection. The same day after hours and hours of waiting, they gave me the injection. They explained how it works and even though we were both very sad I was relieved that at least I didn't have to go through the surgery. I thought if they have to operate on me again, then I was never definitely going to be a mom. I only have one fallopian tube left.

Right now, they still have me waiting. I go every other day to get blood test and what is driving me crazy is that the hormones are going up. Which is bad. It means is not going away. I very impatient, and I wonder everyday what is going to happen to me. According to my doctor, today is my last blood test. If it is still going up, then I'm going to get a second injection. If that doesn't help, after another week of waiting, I will have to be operated on again.

This is my sad story. I never knew how painful this could be. No one knows until they go through it. I have always dreamed of being a mommy. Of having children of my own specially with the men I love. We are both good people. We are young, and we love respect each other like no other young couple I have met. We have a very good relationship. After six long happy and sad years of our lives together, we are finally going to get married this June.

To those woman who are going through or have gone through this, I'm so sorry. I honestly know what you have been through. It is so upsetting when I see on TV how some girls just throw away their babies. Its a shame. I just wish them good luck, and that one day they realize how important and how wonderful is to have a baby in your life.